Just because they were what everyone was allegedly doing underneath the bleachers years ago, you can still and should incorporate hand jobs into your sex life. Instead, change how you view them, she says. Here are 19 of the best hand job tips out there. Grab a bottle of lotion or lube and get ready to take some notes. When giving a handy, keep this in mind and try to mimic the feeling of a vagina with your hands, by wrapping your hands around their penis and gradually increasing the pressure. How much pressure is too much?